a list of topics that interest me. i hope to write longer essays on each, but while i'm getting around to it, the list grows longer.
defensiveness - why do we hesitate to learn more about ourselves? and can we treat defensiveness with mindfulness - when did the defensiveness start? how long will it last? what preceded it? what helped it go away? can be as primary to the interpersonal arena as aversion is to solo buddhist meditative practice.
the 50% rule - i prefer to hang out with those i respect enough that, when we disagree, i expect to be right half the time and wrong half the time. i ran into my former patient, peter, on the street. we greeted each other, "how're ya doin?" how you doin?" then he offered, " i wanted to tell you that i think the most valuable thing you ever said to me in therapy was that you let your kids be right half the time."
